Uptown Punk | Never Mind the “Rules”

Sex Pistols tee Very coated black jeans

When an article entitled “The 40 things every woman should know about fashion over 40” was published by the Telegraph I sighed inwardly and thought “oh, here we go again”. Just where do fashion journalists get off on telling people over 40, or any age for that matter, what they should and shouldn’t be wearing? Nothing magical happens the day you turn 40, it’s just a continuation of life as it was when you were 39 the day before. Wrinkles and grey hairs don’t suddenly appear like a bolt from the blue, your zest for life and love of fashion don’t evaporate overnight, so why should we stop wearing certain things just because we’ve hit a milestone birthday?  Judging by the response the article received on social media it’s evident that many of us ladies over 40 feel that way.

For me growing older isn’t about losing something…it’s about gaining: in confidence, contentment and being liberated from the stifling pressure of caring too much what other people think about me.

For me growing older isn’t about losing something, or having to give up wearing specific items of clothing because someone who doesn’t know me thinks it’s no longer appropriate, it’s about gaining: in confidence, contentment and being liberated from the stifling pressure of caring too much what other people think about me. In my teens, 20s, and even my 30s, I cared more about fitting in and wearing whatever my peers were wearing than allowing my style and individuality to show through. Now I don’t want to fit in. Life would be very boring if we all looked the same. Sure I follow trends but I’ll either make them work for me or leave well alone. I’m not a sheep or a fashion victim.

Sex Pistols tee Asos studded clutch

The Telegraph article isn’t the first of its kind, so it’s hardly ground-breaking stuff, and I wouldn’t normally grace such journalistic tripe with a response, but the tone of writing was so patronising I felt compelled to have my say. Being told I need to “grade up” my shoes like a teacher might tell a pupil to pull their socks up really hit a nerve:  “More to the point a shoe is where you score your fashion points when you are past Sex Pistols T shirts and floral coronets (which you are)”- the cheek! Also out apparently is leopard print: “Tips over into blowsy any day now” as well as bows, foundation and knees…yes, I know, it’s utterly ridiculous. So I decided to flick a sartorial two-fingered salute to Shane Watson and all other journalists who try to tell us what not to wear by combining the double sin of a Sex Pistols T-shirt and leopard print shoes…I like to think of it as Uptown Punk. I’ve always had a rebellious streak, and being told I can’t or shouldn’t do something only makes me more determined to do it. So never mind the “rules”, here’s to wearing what the hell you want and not giving a damn. Go to it ladies!

Sex Pistols tshire Very coated black jeans

H&M black coachella cat sunglasses

Asos goldtone spike bracelet

Miss KG leopard print shoes

Sex Pistols tee black very coated skinny jeans

T-shirt: eBay, jeans: Very, shoes: Miss KG, clutch and bracelet: Asos, sunglasses: H&M, ring: Merle O’Grady.

 

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42 Comments

  1. June 18, 2016 / 9:14 pm

    Loved this post ! Well the article did say you have to have good legs for those leather trousers ✔ I’m thinking about buying a waisted flared skirt right this moment, take a self ie and send it to them ! Love that Sex Pistols t. Punk got me into trouble when I was younger, more about that when we meet again !
    Laurie x

    • June 21, 2016 / 11:14 am

      You should do Laurie! If we keep rebelling against their silly rules they might start writing useful articles instead. I can’t wait to hear all about your punk years…I’m intrigued!

  2. June 18, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    You look fab Emma. What a ridiculous article. I’ve not read it but I know the kind you mean. Like you. one of things I really enjoy about getting older is being free from all the nonsense that we find ourselves caught up in and restricted by when we’re younger. What a shame people still try to spout these so-called rules off to women instead of joining us in celebrating this freedom.

    I love this look, and absolutely love the ring you’re wearing too. What lipstick are you wearing? It’s the perfect shade of pink!

    • June 21, 2016 / 11:12 am

      Thanks Melissa! I’m wearing an Estee Lauder Pure Color Blushing Creme lipstick – I don’t know if Blushing is the shade name but it has the number 55 on it too. I’m also wearing the Laura Geller lipliner that was in the 3040 blogger meet goody bag, which is one of the best I’ve used. I hadn’t tried anything from that brand before but I’m converted now!

  3. June 20, 2016 / 2:09 pm

    Yes. I hate fashion dictated by age! Confidence is the best accessory, so I’m all about rocking stuff that makes me feel good regardless! And I’m crushing on your shoes!!
    Carylee | http://morepiecesofme.com

    • June 21, 2016 / 11:05 am

      Thanks Carylee! Being told I shouldn’t wear something brings out my stubborn streak!

  4. June 20, 2016 / 2:39 pm

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE this outfit!
    I’m 37 and get just as annoyed being told what I can’t wear over 30!

  5. sasha
    June 21, 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Cool tee! You look awesome 😀

    I loved reading this! “FOR ME GROWING OLDER ISN’T ABOUT LOSING SOMETHING…IT’S ABOUT GAINING: IN CONFIDENCE, CONTENTMENT AND BEING LIBERATED FROM THE STIFLING PRESSURE OF CARING TOO MUCH WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME.” This is exactly how I look at aging! You just get better with time.

    Have a great day!
    xoSE
    http://www.sashaelizabeth.com/

    • June 21, 2016 / 4:26 pm

      Absolutely Sasha! We just get better, like a fine wine! Thank you so much for your kind comment 🙂

  6. June 21, 2016 / 8:00 pm

    I definitely feel like the older I get the more confident I am and the less I care about following any sort of fashion rules. You should wear what you love! This is such a fun outfit! Those leather pants look amazing on you and I love those shoes!

    Jill
    Doused In Pink

  7. June 21, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    I love this post! I love your outfit! I love the sunnies! You look fabulous! Rock on, girl!

    I would love if you joined my new Friday link up with super cool style! Hopefully I will see you On the Edge of the Week!

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

    • June 22, 2016 / 2:32 am

      Thanks so much for linking up On the Edge of the Week! I hope to see you again this Friday!

    • June 23, 2016 / 1:23 pm

      Thank you Shelbee! See you On the Edge of the Week 🙂

  8. June 21, 2016 / 10:00 pm

    I hate those stupid articles, I saw one for over thirties and it had so many stupid things in it. Wear whatever the hell you like I say
    Lauren
    livinginaboxx | bloglovin

    • June 23, 2016 / 1:26 pm

      Thank you Lauren! I saw one about what the over 35s shouldn’t wear at festivals. It said wellington boots are a no-no…and then I saw the mud at Glastonbury and wondered if that journalist knew anything about the UK weather! Obviously not!

  9. June 21, 2016 / 11:35 pm

    Love your post! You are so right about the those rules. I hardly never follow them and I love to create my own standards. 😉 Love your outfit very much! The pants are so hot, along with your heels and bag. By the way, I have the same spark bracelet. 😉

    Thank you so much for your kind words on my blog. Don’t forget to come back every Monday, Wednesday and Friday to link up with me again!
    Take care and keep in touch! 🙂
    Grace
    http://colorandgrace.com 

    • June 23, 2016 / 1:21 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words Grace. I love your style and I’m still thinking about your amazing closet and shoe collection you showed us on the blog 🙂

    • June 23, 2016 / 1:19 pm

      Thank you Jacqueline! I think these types of articles are very insulting. One thing I’m certainly too old for is being told what not to wear!

  10. June 22, 2016 / 6:26 pm

    You look Hott! Especially in those amazing pants – such a perfect fit. I loved reading this post and Loathe those stupid articles thinking they can tell me what to wear. Ha. Also I adore the notion of uptown punk – too cute. Thanks for linking up with Fabulous Friday! Hope to see you back next week.

    Jennie – A Pocketful of Polka Dots

    • June 23, 2016 / 1:28 pm

      Thank you Jennie 🙂 I was really surprised at the quality of the jeans as they were only £25!

  11. June 23, 2016 / 3:21 am

    You are rocking those pants! Love this edgy look on you!

  12. June 24, 2016 / 1:01 pm

    Great post! I think you should wear whatever you feel confident in regardless of your age! You look amazing in those pants and I am loving those shoes and your sunnies!

  13. June 25, 2016 / 11:53 pm

    Amen, Emma, Amen. Being a huge proponent of tossing rules to the side, I’m so happy to “meet” you 🙂 and I do hope that, in the spirit of wearing whatever strikes our fancy, you’ll come join in my Project Sister Act Link-Up. It aims to demonstrate that style is ageless 🙂

    https://sheelagoh.com/2016/06/24/show-some-skin-a-link-up/

    p/s And I think you look a little rock, a little badass, and a lot cool xoxo

    • July 6, 2016 / 11:27 am

      Thank you so much for your kind comments Sheela! I love your post “Show Some Skin” – I totally agree that being comfortable in your own skin is far more attractive than trying to be sexy by flaunting too much flesh. I was a bit slow off the mark and left it too late to join the link up but I’m looking forward to seeing the next instalment of Project Sister Act Link-Up 🙂

  14. June 29, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Wow – such an interesting read. totally agree with you. Hitting a certain age certainley doesn’t mean we have to change our style. I tend to dress in what suits me, not what I’m expected to wear, but I know there are particular items that I don’t wear – more because of my figure – not because of my age. Love those black jeans and shoes too. Jacqui
    http://www.mummabstylish.com

    • July 6, 2016 / 11:33 am

      Thank you Jacqui! I know exactly what you mean – I choose my clothes based on what suits my body shape rather than age because that’s just a number after all!

  15. July 10, 2016 / 4:47 pm

    That’s my girl !! Totally different from last week and “up yours” to people who tell us silly rules. You rock m’am. You really do. Many young ones would sacrifice their right arm (figure of speech) to look like you.
    Greetje

  16. January 11, 2017 / 6:20 pm

    I love those shades and I wear what I like, however I have to admit sometimes I ask my husband if its too much.
    The one thing I am really conscious about is hem length however it’s something I’ve always been careful with.

    • January 13, 2017 / 3:06 pm

      I often get raised eyebrows from my husband – usually when I wear a hat. Sometimes I take his advice..and other times not 😉

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