I was intending to put together a Mother’s Day gift guide for earlier in the week, but to be honest I just couldn’t focus on it. Things have been changing so rapidly that I can’t plan more than a few days ahead. I desperately wanted to see my mum today but it was neither possible nor advisable.
The irony is that just a few weeks ago I was wondering when I’d next get to see my mum as I had holidays booked for the Easter break as well as May’s half term. Now that Cyprus is cancelled (and most likely our trip to Madeira will be too) I have plenty of time to go – even more since schools are closed. In fact I have more time than ever to visit my mum, and yet I can’t. Now I’m wishing I’d had more time before to spend with her.
Living on the other side of the country (with her on dialysis machine three times a week) it was never going to be easy. I have no idea when I’ll next see her. And I know many, many people are in the same situation. A friend of mine whose mum has dementia and is in a care home has been told to stay away for 8-12 weeks. She’s distraught at the prospect of her mum forgetting who she is during a prolonged separation.
For those of us separated from loved ones we’ve got too much time yet not enough. So much time to fill, but not enough with the ones we need to be with. The truth is that however much time we spend with our loved ones, at times like this we always wish we had more time with them.
We’ll all have a lot of time to reflect upon our precarious situation over the coming weeks and months, but I feel we are running out of time to learn the lessons that will save us. I don’t want to fill you with doom and gloom; I am at heart an optimist and believe we can learn from this, and make positive changes to the way we live our lives, for good. Maybe this is Earth hitting the reset button and reminding us that we need to respect her, and each other – and by that I mean our non-human friends too. That is what I am holding on to right now.
Here in the UK we’re not in lockdown (yet) like some other countries. My Dad, who lives in France, has to take a document with him when he goes to the shops for groceries. But the government is introducing tighter measures incrementally, so it’s probably just a matter of time. And there it is again: Time – the theme of the day.
I’ve been drawing up a list in my head of things that will help us all get through this testing time. Even though I’m still working as and when required, I’m going to be spending a lot of (you guessed it!) time at home with Isobel. That in itself will require all my powers of creativity, and no doubt a good deal of patience too! The good news is I managed to find a replacement jigsaw for the one that my naughty cat peed on – yes he used the box as a litter tray…right in front of us, bold as brass! Doing a jigsaw is surprisingly therapeutic 🙂
I also intend to start playing the guitar again and hopefully teach Isobel to read music. Just before Christmas I started learning Portuguese with a couple of apps. I also began relearning all the French and Italian I’d forgotten…I’m addicted to it now! I’ve got loads of little projects on the backburner too, which I’ll be sharing here and on Instagram.
I’m very lucky to have a mini home gym consisting of a treadmill and weights. In fact I haven’t had a gym membership since I moved to Cheshire almost seven years ago. I enjoy running on my treadmill (I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea) while watching YouTube and doing BodyPump tracks – I make up my own routines too. When I lived in Nottingham and my freelance work dried up for a while I trained to be an exercise instructor and taught classes at a local leisure centre for a brief time. (And then I got a staff job at the BBC so I had to give it up). Maybe I’ll start a regular home fitness update…would that be of interest to you? It might finally make me get my arse in gear and revive my YouTube channel!
One thing that constantly keeps my spirits up is having fun with clothes. I will continue to post outfits – it cheers me up and I hope it puts a smile on your face too 🙂 I find pink both uplifting and soothing so I was naturally drawn to shades of fuchsia and candy floss for today’s outfit. Despite being sunny it’s still quite cold so my cashmere roll neck jumper kept me warm without being too bulky. As luck would have it, my jewelled beret matches it perfectly.
I’m wearing my new Nordgreen Infinity watch (kindly gifted). I love the classic design and minimalist face. I have a few watches but I didn’t have an all-silver one until now. I’ve been wearing it every day since it arrived. Nordgreen was founded by two friends who wanted to create stylish watches that reflect the Danish values of responsibility and sustainability.
“The Danish lifestyle is all about removing the complexities of modern living and appreciating the little things – about having less and enjoying more.”
The company has partnered with global NGOs to make positive changes in health, education, and environment via their Giving Back Program. Plus, with each vegan watch purchased you can choose which cause you would like to help. Supporting companies that give back is so important; I like to know that the money I spend is going to an ethical and morally responsible brand. Consumer power is everything.
I’ll end today’s post with a quote from Nordgreen which I think is quite fitting: “Our watches don’t just tell the time: they remind you to treasure it.”
Jacket from Debenhams (old) | jeans from TKMaxx (old) | beret from Asos (old) | Damart jumper (old) | Marks & Spencer boots (old) | Nila bag (TKMaxx) | Nordgreen Infinity watch c/o